[If] someone says to another: “Konam, whatever benefit I might derive from you, unless you come and take for your children one kor of wheat and two barrels of wine,” such a person can annul his neder without recourse to a sage, if he says to him: “Did you say [that] other than for my honor? That is my honor!” Similarly, someone who says to another: “Konam, whatever benefit you might derive from me, unless you come and give my son one kor of wheat and two barrels of wine” —- R' Meir says: It is binding until he gives; the Sages, however, say: This person, too, can annul his neder without recourse to a sage, if he says: “It is as if I have received.''  [If] they were urging him to marry his sister's daughter, and he said: “Konam, whatever benefits she derives from me forever”; likewise, [if] one was divorcing his wife, and said: “Konam, whatever benefit my wife derives from me forever,” they are permitted to have benefit, since his intention was only for marriage. [If] he was urging another to eat with him, [and] he said: “Konam, your house, with respect to my entering [it]”; [or] “a drop of your cold water, with respect to my tasting [it],” he is permitted to enter his house and to drink his cold water, for his intention was only for eating and drinking.

R' Eliezer says: They may find grounds to annul a neder for a person with the honor of his father and his mother; the Sages, however, forbid [it]. Said R' Tzadok: Before they find grounds to annul the neder for him with the honor of his father and his mother, they should do so with the honor of God. If so, no nedarim! The Sages agree with R' Eliezer, however, that —- for a matter between him and his father and mother —- they may find grounds to annul his neder with the honor of his father and mother.